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  • ChexMax@lemmy.worldtomemes@lemmy.worldWhy they always do this?
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    1 month ago

    Idk if you’re a man or a woman, but that’s a wild take. I’ve definitely heard men nitpick a woman’s appearance, including chipped nail polish, but above all about weight, which is a big part of the original post.

    In my experience, women are more likely to talk trash about things easily changed: judging someone for clothes that don’t fit well or makeup that’s poorly applied, whereas men will trash women for body type, weight gain, and aging.

    And if you think a man is dangerous to a beautiful woman who rejects them, you don’t want to meet a man who is mad a woman “below” him has rejected him. That can be violent.








  • Ugh we just got cut out of our friend group for very similar situation, except the asshole won. He almost cheated on his then fiance, he did screw over his “best friend” my husband, and when he learned my husband had told me about the emotional affair, he manipulated us and everyone, campaigned against us and eventually got us disliked and dropped by everyone. It really sucked, these were lifelong friends. My only hope is that they eventually all see who he is. I doubt it, as it’s been a year and a half, and his now wife just had a baby. I feel the worst for her in the situation.






  • That’s all very lovely but I think you’re missing the point of what I’m trying to say.

    I’m not saying anyone is dropping loads of money to impress anyone, I’m saying going out in most any context costs loads of money without even being “impressive”.

    Obviously a hike and a picnic is a great date! But it’s reckless and irresponsible as a first date. You could end up murdered. For a first date you’re likely meeting in a public place. Heck, even in your own example your first date was in a bar, which now a days is a dozens of dollars experience for just a few drinks, much more if you’re buying for two or it’s a nice bar, or if there’s any food involved.

    I’m saying even for frugal people (hell, my husband and I first got to talking in a thrift store through a mutual friend!) dating is expensive, and it’s not about preferences, it’s just that eating out at all or even just drinks or coffee not at home is very pricey.




  • Yeah I mean you pay money and take a little course to become a notary and you have to reup every year (or three years? I can’t remember). The point is you take on legal liability. A notary cannot claim, “i didn’t realize, I didn’t know, I didn’t double check.” Most of the money you pay is in liability insurance in case you screw up. Because if a notary stamps their name to something false, they bear the legal liability which is enough for a notary to not take the risk of flippantly stamping things that are untrue.

    You can also legally marry people.

    There are also legal limits to how much you can charge (like 10 bucks and document or something. It’s not much). Since each stamp doesn’t earn much, but the liability could cost you a lot, it keeps notaries pretty honest. It’s a decent system.

    Mostly only nerds are notaries anyway, so the promising and putting your name to something does some of the heavy lifting by itself